Why Do I Do That adapts the basic strategies of psychodynamic psychotherapy to a guided course in self exploration, highlighting the universal role of defense mechanisms in warding off emotional pain With easy to understand explanations, the first part teaches you about the unconscious mind and the role of psychological defenses in excluding difficult feelings from awareWhy Do I Do That adapts the basic strategies of psychodynamic psychotherapy to a guided course in self exploration, highlighting the universal role of defense mechanisms in warding off emotional pain With easy to understand explanations, the first part teaches you about the unconscious mind and the role of psychological defenses in excluding difficult feelings from awareness Individual chapters in the longer middle section explore the primary defense mechanisms one by one, with exercises to help you identify your own defenses at work The final part offers guidance for how to disarm your defenses and cope effectively with the unconscious feelings behind them Psychological defense mechanisms are an inevitable and necessary part of the human experience but when they become too pervasive or deeply entrenched, they may damage our personal relationships, restrict or distort our emotional lives and prevent us from behaving in ways that promote lasting self esteem.
Interesante, aunque admito que me costó su poco, y es que, por algún motivo, desde que uso el Kindle, me cuestan más todos los libros de estudio. Debe ser porque no puedo hojearlos de adelante para atrás cada vez que quiero repetirme alguna parte. Eso los hace visualmente más difícil. No es como las novelas o libros del tipo, en que uno simplemente se desliza como un esquiador pro bajando las colinas. O bueno, como me gusta creer que me deslizo, jejeje.Como sea ideas que ya han sido tocada [...]
Terrific book. I'm not an easy convert to the psychodynamic perspective. It's old and jargon laden and unscientific and pretty much everyone who I know that practices in a psychodynamic orientation is a shameless crank. The psychodynamic perspective is still dominant on the east coast (another great reason to never travel east of Fresno), and still present in psychiatry (no comment).I'm sure some of the people who practice in the psychodynamic orientation are good clinicians. I just haven't pers [...]
Focusing on the unconscious forces known as defense mechanisms - those "lies we tell ourselves" that shield us from pain yet often drive our actions - Why Do I Do That? Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives spells out in clear, simple terms, the emotional landscape giving rise to the feelings and behavior that can undermine relationships and happiness.Once I picked this book up, I had a hard time putting it down! It is well written and thoughtful, giving an ac [...]
This dynamic psychological tool is a gripping read with journalling exercises that work.Highly recommend this to anyone wanting to grow healthier with themselves andRelationships in a genuine ongoing process. Well Done!
These books just make me realize I have a lot more issues than I thought! haha. I'm happier living in my own little repressed and denied world. Too much!
After having read all the comments and reviews of this book (post-reading the book), I feel slightly embarrassed for having liked it so much. Something just seemed to "click" with the content and writing style.I'm no expert on psychology and psycho-dynamic theories but this book seems to contain a lot of insight, and just enough detail. The concepts were explained in a simple and logical structure.It was a little strange how much the author referenced pop films and very particular real world eve [...]
A practical introduction to the psychological self-defense mechanisms that we use to cope with the difficulties of daily life. The author argues that we rely on them to keep painful things out of the conscious mind and bury them into the unconscious. He proposes useful categories into which the reader can idenfity him- or herself and then offers exercises to help deal with the root causes of the pain. You'll find yourself saying "Oh that's so me!" a few times and that's what really makes this bo [...]
Interesting. Do most of us ever take the time to truly know ourselves and the devices we use to avoid pain in our lives? I think not. This book was insightful but I wanted more of the "now what" once we had the identification and awareness. Good discussion in our book group.
Interesante para reflexionar sobre nuestros mecanismos de defensa, esas mentiras que nos contamos a nosotros mismos para evitarnos experimentar sentimientos dolorosos
I picked up this book because I wanted to know more about defense mechanisms. More specifically, I wanted a list and clinical definitions of as many defense mechanisms as possible, so that I could almost ‘study’ them and learn how to see them in myself and others.In many ways, this book gave me that – chapter by chapter, Joseph Burgo tackles one category of defense mechanism after another. To his credit, I found he was repeatedly able to simplify what are sometimes complicated matters, thr [...]
"The best offense is a good defense." We've all heard it. What I began to wonder, though, as I worked through this valuable and insightful book, is how much time do we spend on defense rather than offense? How much of our effort at self-stability goes into our defensiveness? If the motivation of our ego defensiveness, as the author defines, arises out of our pain and insecurity; and if we are spending a majority of our time in defense of ourselves, then we must be carrying around a ton of pain a [...]
The title sounded like it would explain why we take certain actions, maybe in terms of evolutionary requirements. But instead it is just a pop psychology book that tells all its readers that everyone has problems, everything we do is tied to some kind of unconsciousness trauma, and we are ALL FUCKED.Of course, not that fucked that a few good sessions of therapy won’t help, once we understand a few basic reasons of why we do the things we do (in very simplified manner that makes me wonder why p [...]
Apparently I use rationalization and intellectualization a whole lot as a coping mechanism. Yup, I knew that before but now I KNOW that. These strategies set out to constrain the experience of emotional pain to the realm of thought which is a whole lot better than actually having to feel it in the body. It doesn't start out that way of course; you start out feeling the pain in the body and then it goes on too long and threatens to overwhelm you so you force yourself to go numb to it but you stil [...]
Learning about "defence mechanisms" laid the foundation to recognise thoughts and the influences on my actions. The book considers our mental health a dynamic state which needs to be religiously nourished in life in order to suceed. However, the book requires efforts and concentration. I will recommend taking your time to explore each single chapter. Now that I came to the end I feel that I will need to retrace the main concepts on a regular basis. After you find the courage to complete this boo [...]
I have already read the first few chapters and many of the later excerpts. At this point, I could give it the top rating but will wait and make it official when I hopefully get my print copy soon as I want to do so much more pondering once I have it in my hand. The writing style is often poignant. I have been following Dr. Burgo's blog for over a year so many of us avid readers have been anticipating the release of this book. I have gained more self-awareness and understanding of others. I will [...]
Great little book (only about 200 pages) that explains the major defense mechanisms that we all employ in our day-to-day lives, and of those that actually go on to form our character/personality. Exercises included at the end of every chapter, just to make sure that you start looking for a shrink afterwards.
This book is a hidden gem . It contains insightful discussions about our defense mechanisms and how they might prevent our happiness/reaching what we want. Unlike many self help books, it aims for small but lasting change. There are exercises at the end of each chapter. Keeping a journal while doing them is suggested by the author.
This little gem should have a warning attached; "Enter at your own risk" is about right. It begs you to wonder if some things are best left alone. Personally, I had never wondered that before. Nor had I anticipated debating further my decision of the red pill or blue pill. Oh, I'm only 1/2 way.put the book down 3 months ago.
This book has many questions that we can use to examine ourselves. The questions sometimes forced me out of my current loop of thinking and made me confront the obvious thought or feeling that I was having.The book is written very personally and it felt like the author was being open about his own struggles and the imperfections in our attempts to improve ourselves.
This book is an easy to read review of defense mechanisms from a psychodynamic perspective. The book is appropriate for a lay person that is interested in learning about defense mechanisms. As a professional in the field, I wish that Burgo would have gone deeper with case studies.
I wouldn't say I'm a 'self-help' junkie; am pretty selective about which ones I tackle. Having said that, this book and the author's website were a revelation and I discovered 'stuff' about myself that I've previously missed. Thanks, Dr. Burgo!
I didn't actually finish this one. I got about a third through but then had to give it back to the library. I plan to borrow it again or to buy my own copy. The part that I read was very good and helpful. It is just not the type of book to skim through quickly so I ran out of renewals.
This book has been helpful and enlightening for many, but for some reason, it just didn't work for me. It did spark a deep and very meaningful discussion for my book club, though, of which I am most grateful.
Very good book for those who want to know themselves and to understand what their shrink speaks of in their sessions. Author is very careful in its approach to the subject and is extremely precise and clear in his explanations. It was a real pleasure to read it.
If you are not very connected to yourself or don't want to be - this may not be the book for you. An eye-opener not only as to my behavior, but helped me better understand the motivation of others.
Helpful, but uses lots of metaphors I'm not familiar with. :/